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Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Water Bugs & Dragonflies

This is a cute story I found about explaining Death to Young Children
by: Doris Stickney

Down below the surface of a quiet pond lived a little colony of water bugs.  They were a happy colony, living far away from the sun.  For many months they were very busy, scurrying over the soft mud on the bottom of the pond.

They did notice that every once in a while one of their colony seemed to lose interest in going about with its friends.  Clinging to the stem of a pond lily, it gradually moved out of sight and was seen no more.

"Look!" said one of the water bugs to another.  "One of our colony is climbing up the lily stalk.  Where do you suppose she is going?"

Up, up, up it went slowly.  Even as they watched, the water bug disappeared from sight.  Its friends waited and waited but it didn't return.

"That's funny!" said one water bug to another.

"Wasn't she happy here?" asked a second water bug.

"Where do you suppose she went?" wondered a third.

No one had an answer.  They were greatly puzzled.

Finally, one of the water bugs, a leader in the colony, gathered its friends together.  "I have an idea.  The next one of us who climbs up the lily stalk must promise to come back and tell us where he or she went and why."

"We promise," they said solemnly.

One spring day, not long after, the very water bug who had suggested the plan found himself climbing up the lily stalk.  Up, up, up he went. Before he knew what was happening, he had broken through the surface of the water, and fallen onto the broad, green lily pad above.

When he awoke, he looked about with surprise.  He couldn't believe what he saw!  A startling change had come to his old body.  His movement revealed four silver wings and a long tail.  Even as he struggled, he felt an impulse to move his wings.  The warmth of the sun soon dried the moisture from his new body.  He moved his wings again and suddenly found himself up above the water.  He had become a dragonfly.

Swooping and dipping in great curves, he flew through the air.  He felt exhilarated in the new atmosphere!

By and by, the new dragonfly lighted happily on a lily pad to rest.  Then it was that he chanced to look below to the bottom of the pond.  Why, he was right above his old friends, the water bugs!  There they were, scurrying about, just as he had been doing some time before.

Then the dragonfly remembered the promise: "The next one of us who climbs up the lily stalk will come back and tell where he or she went and why."

Without thinking, the dragonfly darted down.  He hit the surface of the water and bounced away.  Now that he was a dragonfly, he could no longer go into the water.

"I can't return!" he said in dismay.  "At least I tried, but I can't keep my promise.  I guess I'll just have to wait until they become dragonflies, too.  Then they'll understand what happened to me, and where I went."

And the dragonfly winged off happily into it wonderful new world of sun and air.

(I am so bummed because I found a huge dragonfly right at Hailey's place about a month ago and took a bunch of really close up pictures of it, but I think I accidentally deleted them.)  Bummer...

12-16-09:  I FOUND IT!!!  I was sure I deleted it and then randomly found it in another folder...


  1. That is a really special way to explain things ... I love it!

  2. I've never heard that story, but I sure can relate Hailey to it. She is loving the flying part!!!

    Love you, pat

  3. As long as those images are still in your head they can bring you comfort. A beautiful story and perfect for little kids.

  4. That is a great story!

  5. I always see that dragonfly at Colton's spot. It often lands when I am visiting. :)

  6. wow that is a really neat picture wen!~