tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6373384818525545940.post4214736987115715058..comments2022-09-16T22:18:40.110-07:00Comments on The Light At The End Of The Tunnel: Rough Daywendyincalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00329772761974971523noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6373384818525545940.post-69841858802530751802011-02-16T17:22:53.437-08:002011-02-16T17:22:53.437-08:00There is nothing anyone one can say or do to take ...There is nothing anyone one can say or do to take away this anger and pain like we wish we could. We can try to do a million things but in the end the only one that will really work is to pray for you and that is what i do every single night. I think it's great that you are dealing with this head on, I would never think of you as crazy, I don't think your normal either i think you have proved to be better than that. Look how many lives you have touched ( more than anyone one else I know) I'm so sorry you have to go through this. You do it so well and put other people to shame that complain over the little things in there life, I admire you so much. No one ever expects you to be "over it" now or ever. You are so much stronger then you realize!!! Don't forget to ask Jesus to carry you,even if your mad at him right now He will still do it :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6373384818525545940.post-47870827893054347352011-02-13T21:02:18.351-08:002011-02-13T21:02:18.351-08:00I saw Kim driving over to check on you Saturday af...I saw Kim driving over to check on you Saturday afternoon. I didn't know that's what she was doing, but seeing her really brought a smile to my face.<br /><br />My heart is continually going out for you, and please feel free to be honest with your feelings with me. If you're grumpy, it's ok to be grumpy. If you feel angry, it's ok to be angry. I will understand. We all will. It still impresses me to no end that you keep coming to church and fulfilling your callings instead of curling up into a ball and blocking out the whole world.<br /><br />I'm so glad you faced your feelings head on. As painful as that was, you are grieving. And if you don't grieve, it really will boil over down the line.<br /><br />But also remember--you are pregnant! You have a lot of hormones that are raging around, on top of the grief of having a child return early to Heavenly Father. Give yourself a break when there's no explanation for why the grief hits so intensely some times. But coming out of a dream with Hailey seems to me like a completely legitimate to end up waking up with a sour mood that you can't shake.<br /><br />And yet, how precious to have that little dream, even though it was cut short by waking up.<br /><br />We are here for you, Wendy.Sarahkittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08749260956180787695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6373384818525545940.post-44851498363966433942011-02-13T14:37:06.092-08:002011-02-13T14:37:06.092-08:00it sounds like you were able to end your day in a ...it sounds like you were able to end your day in a beau'ful day after all, even though it wasn't exactly what you were hoping for. <br /><br />if i could make a little suggestion...(please feel free to roll your eyes and say mmmm-k....) but maybe you could try to remind yourself to be patient with yourself, do not worry so much about what other people are thinking because most of the time they will be fine and aren't dealing with what you are so they are better able to handle things anyway.<br /><br />give yourself a break and know it's going to take time to work through this, so things are not going to go as you hope and thats OK. it's just how things are going to be while you work through things.<br /><br />and don't worry about deadlines to be "over it". i can't imagine anyone expecting you to ever "get over" losing Ooge. Even so, it's no ones business how long it takes you to grieve and heal. That's completely different for every person (I can't imagine anyone being over it in just 2 years), and they aren't you.<br /><br />sorry i know i'm not qualified to give advice. i just love ya and want to help any way i can. i promise i won't be offended if you want to ignore it!! you have to do what works for you. i just know i've felt some similar emotions(isolation, feeling guilty for being angry- i loved the quote from the clergyman, feeling judged for my depression and anger, etc.) as you've described but for different reasons. but I still can't know ALL you are feeling. anyway i just pray you can remind yourself at those times when you feel guilty and disappointed that this IS a huge deal, it IS going to take time and work, so you need to be patient with yourself. that's the only thing that has helped me is just telling myself over and over that it IS a big deal, so it warrants BIG emotions and that BIG reactions and suffering are normal. i'm so sorry. love you.osborneLDShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02665429200673626605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6373384818525545940.post-58419274678954591912011-02-13T14:36:12.360-08:002011-02-13T14:36:12.360-08:00I love you ~I love you ~Kristen Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13450420286673136016noreply@blogger.com